Being single! To some it’s a lonely place filled with sadness and too much masturbation. For others, it’s exactly the opportunity for self improvement that they were looking for!
What’s best for you? Well, that’s up to you, but today Chris Taylor Advocates for being on your own, romantically speaking.
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Hello ladies and gentlemen, my name is Chris Taylor, and I am the Advocate of the Devil… Normally. But today’s episode is a special exception. Today, I’m advocating for you wonderful fans of ours.
The benefit of doing a show where I get to voice my opinions and place it on the internet is that there are times that we get suggestions for topics. Sometimes it’s in the comments section, sometimes it’s on our Discord channel which you can find a link to in the description below! We here at Devious Advocacy read them all and take them to heart.
This one comes from a user by the name of Outcast Necro. He requested that we do an episode in defense of Being Single, and if there is one thing I love… it’s the sound of my own voice. But if there’s a second, it’s giving the people what they want!
So this one’s for you Outcast. This week, we’re going to defend Being Single.
Let me preface this by saying two things right off the bat: People’s experiences in both singlehood AND being in a couple are going to be unique to the individual. Similar though they can be sometimes, every relationship is different, every person is different, and their experiences and interpretations are all going to be, you guessed it, Different!
Number 2: I am very happily IN a relationship right now, so I can understand if it sounds a bit odd talking about being single, especially when being single is the furthest thing from my own mind.
That being said, it wasn’t all that long ago where I was, in fact, on my own. A one man wolf pack as it were. Out and about, living life for numero uno. Which brings me to my first, and arguably most obvious points in favor of being without a significant other.
The only person you have to worry about is you! Which essentially means, no rules! Want to have pizza for breakfast, lunch, and dinner? Go for it! Feel like pulling an all nighter to play the latest game? Have at it dude!
The benefit to this is that you essentially have free reign over your own life! When you’re in a relationship, it’s no longer about just your own wants and needs. You need to balance and compromise them with your significant other.
The freedom that single hood offers is large, seemingly boundless! You make your own schedule, you see and do whatever you want, whenever you want, and with whomever you want.
And that extends to your naughty bits too. There is nothing wrong with going out and… let’s say this politely and say “explore new territory”, if that is your wish. My own personal stance on this is that so long as you are honest with whoever’s undergarment area’s you wish to be involved with, everything is fine.
Consent is a big one here too. But all that mighty freedom does breed, in my mind anyways, one particular thing to keep in mind: Do something with it.
After all, what’s the point in having all that free time and freedom of choice if you aren’t going to be taking full advantage of it? I don’t just mean boning everything in sight, I mean try new things!
I truly believe that everyone out there has a list of all the things that they would love to try, but haven’t. Either they’re too scared, or never made the time, or any of a hundred different excuses.
Things like climbing a mountain. Traveling to a new country completely on their own, with no plan and no partner. Just get up, grab a bag and go!
To a lot of people, the idea of being single can be a very lonely prospect, but the reality of the situation is that it doesn’t actually have to be. It’s not about just cutting all ties to any romantic links, it could be about rediscovering who you are as an individual!
Think about all the things that you are right now. Your friends, your job, your co-workers. Think about all the times you’ve been around them. Now again, I can only speak for myself here, but when I’m around certain people, I have a tendency to act a certain way. Usually I behave the same way as I did when we first met, and just stick with that, with a few adjustments here and there.
Being single can be an excellent time to change that, if that’s what you want to do. New friends, new TV shows, new everything! It’s like having an opportunity to hit a reset button on your life, to a certain extent, and give yourself the chance to do all the things that you wanted to do, but always made excuses for.
It’ll also give you an opportunity to see for yourself exactly what you AREN’T capable of. Let me explain.
The last time I was single, it was following a particular event that I won’t be going into details here. I had been IN that relationship for a number of years and things hadn’t been moving forward. We had hit a large snag, and we really weren’t right for each other. That’s perfectly fine, things happen.
But I had been in that relationship for several years, and it got me thinking about the chance that maybe I was missing out on something. So I went out and partied for a while, stayed out drinking far beyond my normal limits, experimented a bit. I was testing myself, seeing what I wanted.
It turns out, I didn’t like “casual”. It just wasn’t for me. I am one of those kinds of people that actually likes to settle down with one person, get to know them, open up TO them, and spending time WITH them. To some, that may seem to be clingy, and that’s fine, but to others that sounds good, like me, and that’s fine too.
Because the ultimate goal, to some people anyways, is to find that one person that they’re willing to do anything for, and everything with. To spend the rest of their life with that one person. And being single for a time can actually help with that.
I mentioned before that I’m currently in a relationship, and quite happily in fact. For all the time where I was flying solo, it was all moving towards the ultimate goal of being the absolute best version of myself that I could be, so that I could be ready for that one that I don’t want to let go of!
It was discovering what I truly wanted out of both life, and those around me. Sometimes you need to go out and do things that you wouldn’t have at first to both know if it’s something you want, or even more importantly to know if it’s something that you don’t.
The fact of the matter is that it’s going to be different for everyone. For some, being on their own makes them happy, and that’s perfectly okay. For others, being in a relationship fulfills them mind, body and soul, and that is perfectly okay as well.
The point in life, in my opinion, is to do whatever is best for you without harming someone else in the process. And whether or not that includes another human being is a choice that only you can make, not anybody else.
Despite overwhelming… uuhhh… actually I’m not sure what the evidence is here, but I DO hope I managed to shed some light into the positive aspects of singlehood. Whether it be in the freedom it gives you to quite literally do whatever you want, or the ability to discover whatever it is you may NOT want, being single is perfectly valid in the grand scheme of things.
And when the time comes, if you do find a partner for yourself, let that period of being “alone” guide you into being exactly what YOU want to be.
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But for now, in the case of being single… The Defense Rests.